Babywise by Bucknam and Ezzo
Written nearly 25 years ago, yet updated and still relevant today. I cannot recommend this book highly enough. However, you will find people either love or hate this book. Let me tell you why I love it.
- It works! Even if you don’t follow it perfectly, but try your hardest, your child will sleep through the night very quickly!
- It’s completely based on medical research! And after 25 years, it’s still true!
- It explains not only how to care for an infant, but what’s best for the infant and for the mom too!
- The first chapter is all about how a marriage should be the first priority and how a child, even an infant, needs to know their father and mother have a strong relationship in order to feel secure.
- It’s not schedule based or child led feeding based. It is parent directed feeding based. This means the parent makes the call. Instead of always feeding your child every time they cry, you as the parent get to make the call if they are crying for that reason or for another reason.
- It explains many other things besides just infant care. It explains about breastfeeding and bottle feeding, the importance of sleep for a child, possible problems, healthy and unhealthy growth signs etc.
I could go on and on, but I will stop there. We knew a couple families who had tried this and we liked how their children turned out. Therefore, we decided to give it a go with our firstborn. I have to tell you those first four weeks were rough and I do not blame anyone for not doing Babywise, because it’s tough. However, when our little one started sleeping through the night, adjusted to her schedule, and our lives seemed relatively balanced, I knew it was all worth it. I read the book before our child arrived, and a couple times afterwards.
I do caution you though. I read a couple other very popular books about infant care and they disagreed with Babywise on many points. Even many things we were told in the hospital and in the parenting classes disagreed with Babywise. If you choose to do Babywise, you will be rare and people will not understand. I had no idea how many different parenting and feeding “philosophies” there were out there until we chose one and went with it.
I am giving this book a 5 out of 5 because it has stood the test of time and is useful for all generations.